Sarah Kent is fed up with people telling her she’s too thin or criticising her for the way she looks – so she sent Five News her story. Sarah says she is naturally skinny and does not diet. She leads a busy life, rushing around and bringing up her two kids. Sarah says, it’s just the way she is.
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This website is awesome! It’s really not fair how people think that it is OK to make fun of “skinny” people to their face. I believe that it is just as hurtful to make fun of a skinny person’s weight as it is to a larger person’s weight. This website is right on!
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I agree with her.. Every week theres some new bullcrud in magazines about people being too skinny and then people being too fat. I hate it! It makes me uncomfortable and to the honest truth, I behave the same way she does when picking out clothes, “Will this shirt make my arms look skinny? Will the pants make me look like Ive got twigs for legs?” Its horrible…and not a great feeling when all you want to be in yourself.
Im 5′5, 19 yrs old, 115lbs and have been skinny for all of my life. Ive been jealous of my older sister because when she was younger she was skinny, and then as she got older, she acquired this perfect body with all the right fill everywhere. She has nice legs, can wear short skirts, short pants…while I cant because Im afraid of people looking at me weird. It sucks…
i so agree with the video, i too have had comments constantly, but its mainly through jealousy.
Ever since the size 0 issue in the media i felt more targeted by people feeling the need to comment on me. Its very difficult when people make a comment like what diet are you on? etc. I have actually at many times in my life felt the need to eat in front of people just to let them know i do eat.. to all the naturally slim girls out there stay strong and the people who are commenting on you are the ones with the problem.
I have been skinny my entire life, i am not anorexic, or have any eating disorders, i am perfectly healthy.
However, I have had a lot of negative comments about my size being thrown at me, people asking if i am anorexic, or malnurished, if i am sick. It hurts, i have been huritng with these negative commetns my entire life. i just take in the negative comments and let it hurt me.
People feel just because you are small and skinny that they can take advantage of you. But recently I have learnt to stand up for myself and not take negative comment about my size from anyone! My boyfriend loves me for who i am, he loves that I am skiiny, so i do not care what anyobne else thinks! If they have a problem with my size, then screw them. I had cause last week to confront a group of people who were makine loud comments about my size, they were totally shocked and ashamed when i came up to them and confronted them about it. They did not think that someone as small and skinny as me would be brave enough to confront them. I have learnt a lot from that experience and i am going to continue to stand up for myself, and if people have a problem with the way i look, then too bad for them, because I love the way i look. This took me a lot of years to gain this self-esteem and learn to ignore people. I realise a lot of people who make the negative comments about me being skinny are usually overwight themselves and truthfully, they are also not very nice looking. I do not go around making fun of them, so why do they do it to me?
If if was not for my boyfriend loving me for the way i am, i think i would still have a lot of self-esteem problems, but he has shown me not to care what other people think, the only person who matters to me is him. So to all the naturally extrememly skinny girls out there like myself, stand strong and love yourselves! You could never please anybody, they always look for a problem with you, you are either too skinny, to fat, or too something else, so scre everybody and just be happy with yourself.
Fay, thanks so much for sharing your story. GOOD FOR YOU that you stand up for yourself! I think everyone has to learn to love themselves, and it’s GREAT that you can show other girls and women how you stand strong!
Don’t gain a pound – you look great.
I just wanted to say thank you so much for all the nice comments that have been made about my video and article, when i did them i really spoke from the heart, i really didn’t expect the response they have both received. I know from messages i have had that the video has help people to just except the way they are, which is truly amazing
Thanks again
Sarah Kent x
Hello
I’m so glad about this website. People with the same problem as I have. I am 26 years old, about 1,56m and I weight between 37 and 40kg. I really feel well and healthy. This is my weight now for a couple of years, I have never been fatter than this. I was always the skinniest. It seems like I have to tell everybody I meet I do not have anorexia. Last year I got so enough of the commentes I went to the hospital en did a test (blood, urine etc..) to find out if I maybe have anorexia without knowing it by myself. But the docter told me I’m ok, there’s nothing wrong with me. On all of my jobs people dont take me serious. All of the people of the entire world think I am ill. Often they act a bit in a distance to me, and even if I tell them I dont have an eating disorder they act like: yeah.. do you believe it by yourself. On my job I dont get the real work, I always have to prove I can handle things.. I am not ill.
When I eat, people look on my dishes.. when I have a day that I dont feel like eating that much, people think theyre right.
I’m so tired of it. I cant gain weight and I dont want to gain weight cause I feel perfect in the way I am.
I dont like my figure, mainly cause I know what people thinking. I know this will never ever stop, but I’m so tired of it. I want to shout it into the word: I am healthy.. but nobody believes me anyways…
cheers, of a frustrated, hopeless, miriam
I am so happy because you made that video i am a skinny person and people keep critisize me and i’m easy yo get mad so i always get mad….it hurts to realize how everybody think bad about you…..
THANK YOU VERY MUCH,YOU JUST MADE MY DAY!!
Tell me about it, I was 9.5 lb’s when I was born, but only because my mom had a cholestoral problem when she was pregnant with me. Ever since I have been naturally very thin. at 1 year old, I had not gained much weight and the doctor assumed that I was a failure to thrive case, which I take great offense to today. My mom was also extremely offended, because the doctor was basically accusing her of not feeding me, and growing up all I did was eat. Over the years I have come to the realization that the criticism that I recieve, is the result of an overweight nation, and world for that matter. Most people are overweight, so when someone is skinny they assume something is wrong with them. To this day I am very aware of people who are being rude to me, because of the constact criticism I recieved growing up. Kids in my class called me bones, my own sister in law had the nerve to point at me and say you don’t want to look like that, the night before my wedding day. There are really so many times that they all seem to run together. The most helpful thing that I have learned, is that no matter what people are going to talk about you, so just try your best to tell yourself you are beautiful, play up your qualities and don’t ever apologize for being who you are. The most beautiful people are the ones who are confident with their flaws, nobody’s perfect!!! SO celebrate yourself YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. There is nothing wrong with being who you are naturally, whether it is a little overweight or a little underweight. The people who come out and say harsh things to people’s faces regardless of the subject are wrong, and probably very insecure themselves. All we can really do is keep our heads high, and forgive the people who judge us and try to prey for them, because we will all be judged one day, and the judgement of God is the only judgement that matters.
God bless.
hey im 5′6 im 15 yrs of age n im skinny but i like being that way!
This forum is great. I am 16 years old 5′6 and have been skinny my whole life. People can be really insensitive about this. However i have noticed that most of you have recovered from this and are stronger, for me i feel its just getting worse. Maybe its because im oversensitive and care too much what people think. Reading you msg’s made me feel better about it and that it will get easier. Im just tired of spending hours trying to figure out whether this will make me look thin or that will make me look long so i opt to stay home most of the time. Its rediculous. I feel like shouting out- im not sick, im not anoerexic. Im so bad, i cant remember the last time i was in public without a hoodie. I wish people wouldnt care so much.
This forum is great. I am 16 years old 5′6 and have been skinny my whole life. People can be really insensitive about this. However i have noticed that most of you have recovered from this and are stronger, for me i feel its just getting worse. Maybe its because im oversensitive and care too much what people think. Reading you msg’s made me feel better about it and that it will get easier. Im just tired of spending hours trying to figure out whether this will make me look thin or that will make me look long so i opt to stay home most of the time. Its rediculous. I feel like shouting out- im not sick, im not anoerexic. Im so bad, i cant remember the last time i was in public without a hoodie. I wish people wouldnt care so much. Whats your secret y’all?!!?
I’m 4″11 at my heaviest I weighed 103 lbs. w/ clothes and shoes after a back injury. Everyone assumes I must be sick or bulimic ( cuz I was always eating) or something b/c I danced professionally for about 5 years until my back injury. When I danced I weighed 97 lbs. which doesn’t sound bad to me but I guess my doctor worried b/c I had 13.3 BMI which I admit is low but dancing eat away my fat and left only fat eating muscle behind. I was told I had 90 lbs. of non fat mass such as bone, muscle, water. So I guess that meant I had only 7 lbs. of fat not good! Well now I don’t dance professionally and I weight 93-95 lbs then my old doctor said I’m too skinny (of course) and now I have too little muscle mass at 84 lbs. of non fat body mass. This isn’t far from where I was before right now I have 9 lbs or fat? They say muscle weights more than fat so I loss muscle and gained fat due not dancing as much. It seems the doctors are never happy, my new doc. say its fine for my height and that the current medical chart my old doctor was using was basically for people over 5′3″. He says that no matter what the chart would say I weighed to little and I had too much muscle or too little muscle. Also, he says the only accurate way to tell your BMI is through a water scale and he’s sure I’m at a healthy amount of muscle and fat. Now I’m finally happy knowing I’m not a freak and the charts are just meant for taller women. I can finally relax be content weighing in at somewhere around 90ish lbs., under 5 feet, wearing kids size 12 clothes, a size 2.5 shoe. It all makes sense now. Long story short those charts that say you should be this or that don’t take in account that you may be small framed or your race as African Americans have more muscle and Asians have the least with other races falling between. So if you feel fine then don’t worry but if you feel weak or something go to a GOOD doctor and check it out.
I was always skinny at school and they called me waif – i am compared to my english collegues i have think bean pole legs but as i got older i am fatter up top but still look thin – nothing i can do about that so yes people always comment that is who they are you are either too fat or too thin. when i put on weight people metioned how fat i was so i have lost weight and well feel healthier again. I just eat heathy now dont care what people say and no i never dieted or ate more to gain weight i just got older and my matabolism changed.
Screw people and their comments we have what we have and we have to feel okay about it – we cant be here for everyone else.
(5′0, 90 lbs) fat people like to pretend that theyre the only ones going thru problems, but skinny kidz have it just as bad, i mean even when my friends see me shove my face like the fatty food loving piggy i am, they ALWAYS tell me i NEVER eat, usual around people that dont know me, so it makes me look bad! WE. CANNOT. HELP. IT. im sorry if u dislike your own body, but dont make us feel like s**t for it! besides, my weight is perfect for my height. why dont people realize this? if i weighed what an average heighted girl weighed, id be a fat lil porker! yes a bit o body fat looks good, but if wont appear dont hassle us for it.
you are right in every word you say!!!
besides that you are absolutely beautiful, extreme sexy and one hell of an appearance as an individual.
I’m 5′5″ tall and usually weigh around 112 lbs.
I am thin — but not underweight, according to my BMI. Recently, my BF told me he would have to break up with me if I do not weight at least 130 lbs., although he wants me to weigh 140 lbs.
This is the craziest thing I have ever heard.
He says I am not healthy. But I am! I eat veggies and fruits and drink lots of water. And, I could eat all day and not gain a pound. About two months ago I had my blood tested and an annual checkup and everything looked good to my doctor.
Since he said this, I started trying to stuff myself and have been drinking Ensure Plus (2 355-calorie bottles a day).
I think trying to gain weight is stressing me out, though, because I actually LOST 3 pounds while trying to gain weight. As a result, I haven’t been to the gym in 10 days because I am afraid I will lose more.
I don’t want to lose him, because I do love him. But, I have asked my friends and relatives if I look anorexic (as he said I do) and they think I look good, like always.
This is causing me great pain and I am thinking I might have to break up with him over it because how could he love me and say this? His only explanation is that the women is his family weigh around 140 pounds … and that he does not think I eat right.
He, however, drinks alcohol on a regular basis, eats lots of fast food and lots of Mountain Dew and snack foods.
I finally found a guy I love and now this. … Makes me cry.
aaaw kelly
:( its so sad hearing your suffering from all of this! i can imagine how you feel, totally, even if i havent been in a similar/same situation!
seriously – 5′5 112 lbs is PERFECTLY NORMAL. you absolutely don’t need to gain any extra weight – in fact this would be unhealthy since your putting on more ‘excess fat’ on an otherwise naturally thin body. i hope you will reconsider to stop gaining weight just for someone else and in turn might suffer from health problems!
personally – i think its not your fault, its all in your boyfriend. sorry if i seem harsh, but i reckon he seems pretty shallow as a person and judging you by the way you look…… consider myself – im 5′5 and weigh 52kgs (around 110 /112 lbs) and i feel perfectly healthy w my body size despite being skinny (or looking even skinnier as most ppl say) my partner never judje me cause im too skinny or lacking those fine, hourglass bodyshape curves, or having a small chest. he always says nice things about my body and also meaning it (not just to make me happy etc). thats what a real, caring bf should be – not telling you how to look , force you to change your looks etc and focus more on personality. if hes caring he wouldve been supporting you if you felt you were being picked on alot for being naturally skinny.
sorry if im ranting….. but i just get quite enangered when ppl judge on someones looks all the time – esp if its the partner!
really, i think all your family members are right – theres def NOTHING wrong w your weight at all believe me. your naturally blessed w a small frame and high metabolism, if anyone else throw comments e@ you theyr just jealous cause your skinny and dont need to go on fads/starvation diets to keep your weight.
i really hopp my reply has helped at least a lil bit. im not saying break up with your bf, but if this continues and hes still acting the way he is, and you feel both physically and mentally unwell by it – then if i were you i would start thinking bout leaving the relationship.
its not worth trying to look good for someone else – not to mention you prolly already look great anyway! – and its DEF unhealthy to eat and binge on lots of extra foods just to put on unescessary fat… reme,ber even skinny ppl get heart disease, diabetes, high bloodpressure and gut problems from overeating.
well i really hopp you will be feeling better soon and i wish you good luck with everything
remember you already look GREAT the way you are!! hugs to you! 
:)
okaii well im 15 && im skinny && 2day at school i looked good i bought a new outfit and some girls were sayin skinny like really loud juss to get on my nerves and u noee it really hurts because i was bout 2 beat her up after school i was really pissed im juss mad because da girls in my school call other girls fat skinny etc juss 2 make dem self look guud infront of da guys in my school im juss sayin being naturally skinny ders nuthin wrong about that i want them 2 leave me alone cuz i culd say stuff to dem 2 like call dem big cuz dey r but its none of my business its her body but wen i try 2 make my move on a guy girls try to ruin it for me and call me skinny and stuff
I’m 15 years old, I weigh just under 100 pounds and I’m between 5′2″ and 5′3″.
I always feel like the media is constantly trying to make a weight comparison. While one week it’s about someone gaining weight, the next week it’s about someone losing too much weight.
My friends–some of which overweight, some of which underweight–constantly compare themselves to me or my other friend who is even smaller. They call me skinny, or say that I’m “Not allowed” to be involved in a discussion about weight.
Apparently, I’m not even allowed to say I feel out of shape because I’m small. They should realize that everyone has their good and bad days. When I feel large, it’s large for my size. I feel frustrated that I can’t speak about gaining/losing weight or exercise with my friends because of hypocritical comparisons.
While I may not be the thinnest girl around–I have muscle from figure skating and dance–I still can sympathize with the modeling industry and its difficulties lately. I feel extreme hurt for the models being fired or not hired because they are too thin. Has it even occurred to people that it’s not their fault? Thin people need jobs, too.
…and perhaps stores should be made for thin people instead of just “plus sized”.
The word “skinny” is slightly offensive to me as well. My heart goes out to anyone who’s been called “Skinny” a “Rake” or has had someone put their hand around your waist to measure you and prove how small you are.
Thanks for reading my slight rant.
I just want you guys to know…that although it appears that people are hating on you….the truth is there just jealous. And this is coming from a person who is not skinny. I think its a real eye opener to look at it from the other side. I just want you to know that i think people say those things because they don’t really think it will hurt you since your already skinny. But I guess thats not fair. To be honest, I never really thought that it really hurt you guys, because if someone was to say that I was too skinny I would take it as a compliment….seeing how im not that skinny. I guess the end result is that you never really know whats going on until you look at it from another perspective. And don’t be too rough on your heavier friends…..they just feel bad about themselves and don’t know how to deal with having such a pretty skinny friend.