Welcome on the website for naturally skinny people! Here’s a video I recently made:
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hello i m really so surprised by ur great courage ; & so glade to find finnaly someone like me i have th same case too i really don’t know the reason or is there any solution that can be made by visiting doctors…i did it once & they told me that i m so healthy but it ’s better to forget aaaabt th idea of getting lil fatter ” normal i mean” without giving any explication i can’t deney taht i still can’t accept it until now & i dnt feel that comfortbal with with wondering all th time why me in aall this world i didn t meet yet somebody like me directly .
hope to stay in touch & to be freinds cos i m sure that we ll understand each other more as we haave th main thing “our bodies” in comon .
waitin 4 any reply & take care .
Hi Sara! Welcome to the XS community! I’m glad you found my website. I know how harsh the world can be in judging people that are “different”. I had a hard time accepting my skinnyness – for years! Eventually I realized that worrying and feeling down has never helped anyone – and I started to accept my body. I love it now!
Once you accept and love your body, other people will accept and love your body too. Be yourself, you know your body best! You’re beautiful the way you are!
did you sii any doctors befores? i just if it’s yes i wanna know wot did they tell u !!!
Yes. They said I’m perfectly healthy! This is just the way I am : TINY. And that’s perfectly fine!! Don’t worry – if YOU Know you are healthy – you don’t need confirmations from other people. You know that you know that you’re healthy!
Like I said, you’re beautiful the way you are. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
How old are you?
20 years old i m moroccan by the way !! i just was thinkin to see other docs if they can find aany treatment or surgery for that nothing is impossibl i guess maybe i have some troubls in my orgaanism that must be fixed … no one is that too thin in my family like me to say that is genetics…
I understand you’re worried. I’m 23 now, and I’ve given up hope that I will ever gain weight
If you’ve seen a doctor – and they told you you were healthy – I’m sure you’re fine.
If you are doubtful – you can always check for a second opinion – go to another doctor: and ask if everything is ok with your metabolism or anything else…let them check your blood, heartrate, bloodpressure, etc.
It could be genetics: my dad is a stick too – and so are my sisters.
i see thnx a looot for ur response it s a really a big pleasur for me to talk to u can we be a new friends? u got my addy if u wanna chat with me from time to time i ll be soo pleased .
You are very welcome. I made this website for you , you know! I know there are not a whole lot of naturally skinny people out there, but I’m so glad to be helping the ones that read this!!! And yes, just give me your email address. And if you return to this website – we’ll be able to keep in touch often! You can ask anything!
sara_love_blue@hotmail.com
do u hav a bf by th way, ,? i meaan it didn t caused problems with boys & u think that ppl like us wont hav problems in their relationships generaly?
Yes, I have been in a relationship for a long time. Trust me – not all guys want big boobs, hips and butt!!! I’ve been in a very steady relationship and so I don’t think that skinny girls should have a problem finding a partner. You have to understand that it’s not all about the way you look! It’s about who you ARE. And if you show people how much you like your body – and how much you love yourself – other people will see that too!!!
thnx a lot u r soo kind even i disturbed u with my qestions .gotta sleep for now hope to catch u soon.
nite nite.
Being Skinny is not a problem, but ur Character
Character means being at peace with your self,Being Confident and Beleiving in God.
Don’t Worry Cause we all made in the image of God, everything in us resembles God, so why worry?
Stay informed and be positive.
hi, i am so happy that i found your website, i am also naturally skinny, i am 24 years old, 168cm and 48 kg
I feel much better when i know i am not the only one with this problem, thank you for the site
omg!!i cant believe it that theres a site for skinny people. im very skinny. 164 & 39kg. I have no idea how to cope with my body. I always feel down with the way i look as other people,they call me skeleton?and even said im anaroexic?sigh..
help me..
Yay! We need more forums, blogs & support groups like this for people like us!!
Btw I made a comment regarding this very subject at this link>>
http://amyha.wordpress.com/2008/06/08/yes-im-naturally-skinny-get-over-it/#comment-467
Check it out.
Peace out~
well this is so me i am very skinny and i have been my whole life,i can eat anything i want and not gain a pound i know people who are jealous of me and say i should be a model but then there are people telling me that i am anaroexic and i should go eat .but i love food but i just cant gain weight ..can you please help me ??? please and thanks
Maybe you are interested in this site.
Small Breasts, does size really matter?
I wish you´ll like it and it´ll be useful for you. Regards.
i am naturally skinny and i can never actually gain weight. i hate it when people say “oh, your too skinny”or “do u ever eat?”or even, “dang! are you annerexic?” but then i thought about it, and i told myself, some people wish they were skinny and i cant change my body. so if people have a problem with my body then they have to deal with it because as long as i am healthy, i have nothing to worry about.
p.s. when people actually see me eat, they get shocked at how much they were wrong about how much i eat because i eat at least 3 times a day and snacks lol
anyways, so dont worry if you are too skinny because your not and maybe people are jealous of you and they want your body;
thats what some people teel me since some people think im perfect for my age
people are just JEALOUS! if you know your healthy and you accept yourself, people will stop bothering you for something no one can fix
SO REMEMBER, DONT GET UNDER PRESSURE OF WHAT PEOPLE THINK!
some people like my body and they compliment it, some dont say anything, and some act like its the end of the world that i cant gain any weight SOME PEOPLE WISH THEY WERE SKINNY AND BE HAPPY THAT YOUR NOT FAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As long as you eat well and are healthy, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being skinny. Twiggy was very skinny too when she was young, but beautiful and healthy!
OMG! lol, its a miracle. you have no idea how happy i am to find this website. i am relieved as well as full of joy to find out that there’s more people with the same issue as me. what am i saying? its not an issue! this is my body. lol, i hope you add more to this site!! its really hard to fit into the “sexy” and even “healthy” caytegory these days. seems like being extra curvy and a little chubby is the new trend these days. i still do feel a little insecure, but hopefully, with your help, i wont any more =]
Thanks for all your great comments, I love to read your stories. I am planning to change the site up in the next few weeks, and add some more content. Keep it up girls!!
Hi to All! I just wanted to share something with you. I am a Medical Doctor in NYC and in 15 years of medical practice I found that the healthiest patients were the skinniest, the sickest were the fattest. There is nothing wrong with being skinny, as long as you don’t have an eating disorder. Most skinny people don’t have an eating disorder, they just are naturally skinny. If you are skinny, and eat normally, be happy because you are lucky to have such a good metabolism. Fat people will always pick on you, out of jealousy, and accuse you of being unhealthy, but ignore them and live your lives, and be thankful. Many of them think that they are fat because they are “big boned”. And as far as models being too skinny fr the catwalk, if they have a medical clearance form their doctor, they dhould be allowed to do anything a model is capable of doing, to exclude them based on Metabolic Index or any other arbitrary number is unfair and discriminatory.
Thanks Steve for that. It is nice to know someone out there (especially a professional) knows that “naturally skinny” women do exist and can be healthy and not have an ED. I am one of them.
Well I weight 110 an I always get picked on for being skinny my arms are my skinniest part but where I’m from u need to be thick and have hips and let’s face it I don’t really have the hips and stuff so as a skinny person I want to say F*** off Im pretty bcuz I’m made the way I’m suppose to be made so let’s all just be happy and feel happy!:-)
Hi everyone, I am thrilled to have found this website. I am in my thirties and weight just over 8 stone, I am 5ft 6. I have been very thin all my life and have felt miserable about it. My arms and legs are the skinnest part of my and I find it hard to choose clothes. I would love to wear dresses but I am to paranoid about having thin legs. Does any one else feel the same!:-)
Hello, i am 37yrs and i have always being terribly skinny. I am very comfortable in my own skin now but spent over 15yrs trying to get to this stage. Growing up, my parents would drag me from one doc to the next trying to find a cure for my lack of weight gain. i have take all forms of vitamins, and nutrition powders in my attempt to look ‘normal’. My social life growing up was a disaster. I got the usual horrible nicknames and claims that i was suffering from either anorexia or HIV. clothes looked awful on me and boys wanted to date my friends.
over the years i have discovered my inner and outer beauty and would not swap places with anyone. my friends look bigger and are sagging and my features are now described as ‘elegant’ and ’sophisticated’.
i was initially scared to date due to my very flat chest but took a chance with my current boyfriend who loves my body! i wish this site had been available during my difficult time growing up. I respect and admire what you are doing.
For girls like me out there, hang in there and love yourself. do not let anyone tell you otherwise…..YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!
wow i nearly had tears in my eyes reading these comments. it´s really stupid to think i am alone being thin as this website proves X-) i think the main problem is that people assume you must be happy with your body if you aren´t big- we aren´t allowed to have body hang ups! and that isn´t fair!
so this site is brillant for having a whinge and not being critisized for it. i think people should start listing all the positives about thinness, like what the doctor mentioned about health X-) x x x
I’m so thrilled to find this website. I’ve always been insecure with my body some people say they envy me and that i’m very sexy but some say ‘ oh your so skinny! or don’t you eat?! it’s really frustrating but finding other people like me is really supportive and to all of i say we’re sexy and should be lucky the way we are. Tah..xox
This video described me perfectly. I eat so much and can’t gain any weight. All my life I have been made fun of an often asked if I was anorexic or bulimic. I’m glad I’m not the only naturally skinny person out there(:
i hate the fact that i m skinny and short! i am 22 years old and people still mistake me for a 13 year old girl (which makes it really hard to be noticed by guys)… i i have to wear heals all the time to be able to stand out a little bit,,
people always tell me to eat more they dont understand that i cant help it i cant gain weight!
but i have decided to change.. i m going to start going to the gym with a personal trainer to build muscles…
Its nice to know that there are a lot of people out there who r facing the same problem..
Stores should sell clothes that are “skinny size” as well as just “plus size,” i hate how people only worry about the overweight people because it’s their fault- (sounds harsh but it it- you eat, you get fat!!) whereas, we cant help being so slim, its natural,
do u guys see where im coming from?
oxoxoxo
My hat’s off to the naturally skinny. You’ll probably live longer and enjoy an overall higher quality of life besides. It’s unconscionable that people would regard you as defective. You are, after all, the ideal. Maybe that’s why they judge you?
Great job!
I love dating naturally skinny women. But with over two thirds of the folks here in the US overweight, the really thin are really hard to find.
Take care,
Tom Hesley
Emilie X wrote:
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> Stores should sell clothes that are “skinny size”
> as well as just “plus size,” i hate how people
> only worry about the overweight people because
> it’s their fault- (sounds harsh but it it- you eat, you
> get fat!!) whereas, we cant help being so slim,
> its natural,
>
Are you suggesting that it’s easier for an overweight person to get thin than for a naturally thin person to get heavier? Is a fat person more to blame for being fat than a thin person is to blame for being thin? I don’t think so.
Just as there are the naturally thin, there are also the naturally fat. It does not necessarily follow that a heavy person will lose much weight if he or she eats less. Some do, yes. But many (most) do not; at least, not for very long. Some are weight-loss-resistant and if they cut enough calories to become thin, they often make themselves quite sick, or die in some cases. The blame game therefore, is pointless when it comes to one’s weight I think.
Tom Hesley
thank you for creating this wonderful site for small framed women!! i’m 22, goin on 23 have small breasts (32a)! i loved reading the post by different men on how they love the smaller figure, it really boosted my confidence! just being in a community that knows all the pros and cons to a small frame feels like home to me =)
again thank you!
-celina
thanks for posting this!
i am naturally skinny
im 18 years old, 5′6 or 5′7 and 98 lbs….
AND I AM SICK AND TIRED of people saying to just be happy with the way i am and love my body…oh i have no problem with my body…its everyone else that tells me “you need to eat something”……”you make me sick”…..some how i dont find those complements…im not sure how im saposta be happy with it when people are RUDE!!
Hi, Mini?
I’m naturally skinny too. Before i used not wear what i wanted, fetl sad for myself, stressed if people told me such ‘eat something’. But afer this website! i learnt we are special and we should not let people make us feel out of place. Now i wear what i want, if people say anything i ignore them and tell them that i love my body just the way it is. Walk out there with pride and people will see that your happy just the way you are. Skinny is sexy! Just be strong and don’t worry about what people say, some probably are jeolous! and also nobody is perfect. xx
I love this website. I’ve grown up hearing that I’m gross, anorexic, ugly, unfeminine. Sometimes I’d just like to go about my day without some random person telling me to eat something. This is the way I look. Deal with it.
Hey Everyone, I was looking for articles and resources for naturally thin women when I found this. I am thinking of starting a clothing line for thin women. I am not a designer or a seamstress – just someone who loves fashion and has the same crazy time that you do finding clothes. I am 5′3″ and 105. This is new. Most of my life I was 98-100 pounds. I am a 39 year old black woman – getting ready to be 40 and fabulous. And for any of you who know about black culture, growing up in a black neighborhood and being rail thin is a serious problem. I am happy with my body now and am actually getting back in shape – toning. I am so happy that you all are here. I hope during my research into the possibility of starting a clothing line – anyone who is interested gives me a shout. Also, I would love to survey you all some time to find out what kinds of thin measurements we all have so that I can put that into my plans. Love, Iris
hey Iris, i think that’s a good idea
Yea i’m almost 18 from Africa and i was being picked on when i was in my country. But i’m living in Australia now and they accept me quite nicely. I’m 5′7 and 49.9. Keep on with your ideas and good luck and i know it’s going to help alot of us out there and here.
First of all, girls, if you are tall and 40 kgs you should be proud because you have a great, great body shape. For sure you can expect to be picked on by jealous girlfriends and others who feel threatened by your feminine form. But, as a guy, let me tell you there is nothing better and sexier and more thrilling than the pride we can take in the lightness of your featherweight frame. So, next time you are on a scale and feel bad because you are skinny, just stop it and be proud of those bones because we guys just love em. From a random guy who naturally loves skinny girls
Hello, My name is Danni. I’ve always been naturally skinny! When I was in middle school, kids used to tease me about my weight, and throw food at me in the lunchroom and yell mean things at me. Before that, I never thought about my weight, but have been self-conscious ever since. I’ve been to the doctor, and without prompting her about my concerns, she calculated my BMI and told me that I was underweight, and that I should eat more protein, etc. This made me feel even worse! Every time I see a show about anorexia on TV, I feel like I look like those people. I have had a goal since I was 16 to be able to give blood, at this means I have to weigh more that 110 lbs. I have been fluctuating between 105 and 108 for two years, and I am getting impatient! Am I healthy? How can I gain enough weight to feel better and attain my goal? Do you have any ideas or resources?
I use to be ashamed of being thin…
people always made comment like
‘Oh my god ! Your soooo skinny !’
And things like that.
Then when they
see how i eat their like ‘Wow, you must be
anorexic !’
It get’s on my nerves ! It’s like
it’s okay to make fun of thin girls..
but once you say something about
a bigger girl’s weight
All hell break’s loose !
i hate it !
But this site’s reaaaaaaaally helped me
soo true lexi. so true.
hi. I’m a guy in my 40s. 5-8″, 110 lbs. Been skinny all my life, though i’ve never been picked on by bigger guys or faced jibes from others. I’ve been through the whole range of emotions that we skiny people go through, so i’ll share some thoughts with you all.
First of all, i think most of you are still quite young and should make some effort to put on weight through weight training and heavy eating, preferably under a professional trainer. It is possible that some of you will get to gain a bit.
Let us also understand why we feel bad, or are made to feel bad, about us being skinny by others. It’s because our bodies do not follow the social norm as perceived by the majority of our society. And if you look around you, you’ll find that society will always do a double take on anyone who doesn’t fit the norm, in other ways also. So this all about context. In the late 60s and 70s (think woodstock audience) it was considered a social crime to either go toa gym or eat too much. Skinny was the norm then and majority of the people were thin, a skinny person never felt out of place, the ‘healthy’ people did.
Over the years, social trends fed by movies, TV, and general prosperity have changed that norm, and now having a pumped up physique is the norm and society has adopted it (subconsciously).
Male or female body types are always determined by the opposite sex. Today men like buxom women, so women strive to be like that. Similarly, women drool over hunks, so men work their ass of in gyms. If i try to woo an average woman, and another ‘average’ guy is also trying to woo the same woman, 99.9% the woman will reject me straightaway for my skinny looks. Coz skinny isn’t attractive any more.
Now being skinny does affect our social interaction in a big way, and can ruin our love (and sex) life. So to that extent we are in deep stuff, and nature has dealt us a cruel hand. If we could help it, almost all of us would have opted for a full figured bodies.
But we can’t. So let’s just deal with it. How?
When i read some of the posts here, i notice that some of you are angry,indignant, aggressive, bitter at being skinny and having to suffer the consequences.
Some of you are also looking for ‘get backs’ to some of the things people say.
There’s no need for you to get into all that. Nor is it going to help you in any way.
Stay calm and ignore what people say.
The important thing is to get your life going with the way you are and not to miss out on the pleasures that one can sometime be deprived of because of our skinniness.
One of the biggest issues skinny people face is with the opposite sex. Because the guy or girl you want will invariably be chasing a more full figured person.
Being skinny can therefore cause social isolation and feelings of loneliness.
Now one can’t force oneself on someone if the other peson has a different preference.
One of the best ways to overcome this is to meet up and get close to people who are like you. Just think of how you felt when you discovered this site and exchanged thoughts with others. Try the same in real life. Meet up with members of the opposite sex who are like you. You will connect well with each other, and you’ll have an additional subject of common interest ( your unique skinny issues) to talk about.
It is very important for us to find someone special from the opposite sex. It is very reassuring to our sense of self, and we’ll begin to see our ‘problem’ as a minor issue, rather than being obsessed with it. You’ll also lose the bitterness that seems to become second nature to anyone who’s been deprived a normal life.
Let’s be practical. We are unhappy with our being skinny only as long as it deprives us of something. Once we achieve that, being skinny ceases to matter.
Skinny people lose out mainly in the attraction game, and that is where we need to work. To win the game with what we have.
To give a male viewpoint to the girls, i want to say that men generally get attracted to curvy girls. But curves are not all. A woman is a treasure of so many elements that can spell beauty. Eyes, lips, hands, hair, voice, walk, smile, not to speak of character. Work on these areas and i can bet any of you skinny girls can drag a buxom woman’s guy from her.
Any doubts?
Any doubts? First of all, I am getting really damn tired of people using the word ‘curvy’ or ‘fully figured’ in contrast with ’skinny.’ There are plenty of thin women with gorgeous hourglass figures. One does not have to be overweight to have a feminine form. That being said, there is nothing wrong with girls who have straighter figures, but again, straight figures are not limited to only the very thin. An your assumption that people of both sexes ‘invariably pursue fuller-figured people’ is so far off, I don’t even know where to begin.
Yes, your advice that we have more to offer than just physical appearance is a nice thought, but other than just pointing out how society views thin women and men, YOU talk about them as thought they are physically inferior, which is what I thought this site was out to combat.
At the outset my apologies for anything that upset you or anyone else in my post.
You said: “There are plenty of thin women with gorgeous hourglass figures. One does not have to be overweight to have a feminine form.”
This site is called ‘xtra small’, not even ’small’. So i guess it is (mainly) about people who are on the extreme side of thin. Not for a moment do i deny there are thin women with hourglass figures, and they are getting along pretty fine, thank you. It’s the extremely thin amongst us who sometimes get the social mistreatment.
You said : “An your assumption that people of both sexes ‘invariably pursue fuller-figured people’ is so far off, I don’t even know where to begin.”
I correct myself. “Fully figured’ was a wrong expression to use, coz it probably suggests fat. I meant someone who’s …well endowed, i think.
And see, i may sound cynical. But bias and prejudice don’t change very quickly, at least not i one’s lifetime. So while it is good to fight the bias, isn’t it also a good idea to find ways to get fulfilment, so that we do not harbour feelings of being ‘victims’ of a trend.?
You said: “Yes, your advice that we have more to offer than just physical appearance is a nice thought, but other than just pointing out how society views thin women and men, YOU talk about them as thought they are physically inferior, which is what I thought this site was out to combat”
However hard you try, you cannot undervalue the importance of our physical appearance in our everyday life. Physical and cerebral, both have their own respective values in a person’s personality. At an international dating site i put that question to hundreds of girls i spoke to. Not even one told me that she was ONLY interested in the cerebral. nd quite a few told me (with a wink ) that physical was more important. This is even more so for guys, who, if you know them well, are very visually guided in their attraction.
I would say that in the physical department if we are lacking in one aspect (the shape and size of our bodies) let us overcome that relative disadvantage by focusing on making other physical aspects like eyes, smile, etc, more attractive. Without sounding immodest, let me illustrate. I am skinny and just short of being ugly. So i often get overlooked by women. But i seem to have a voice that women love. I never fail to seduce a girl on the phone and rarely succeed in a face to face situation LOL . At a mall or a shop counter, a pyt next to me would completely ignore me. The moment i say something to the counter girl, this pyt HAS to turn to me and look. This happens hundred out of hundred times. Women are even better at this kind of thing, as most of you must know.
The reason why i pointed out ‘why’ society views thin people the way it does,is so we can understand and accept that reality. Once we get the perspective, we learn to take the bias lightly.
You say i talk as if thin people are physically inferior. Small correction: thin ( rather skinny) people are ‘perceived’ as physically inferior, not in their abilities etc, but purely from an instinctive attraction point of view. Although i can even show you hundreds of instances where this works against skinny people in other areas of their life (like work, etc). It is most pronounced (and emotionally painful) in our interaction with the opposite sex.
If this site has set out to, and is able to, dramaticaly make skinny people as ‘acceptable’ as the rest, i’ll drink to that. For all you know, after 10,20,30 years, we may go back to the skinny being the norm, and hell, the extra small section at Macy’s may be the main section.
My point is: skinny people are often deprived of pleasures that often come automatically to the others. So why don’t we just find ways to recover our share of pleasures, and stay in good emotional health?
Please feel free to diagree, without getting too upset about anything i said. It is not my intention to hurt anyone.
wow… what a great website… im 15yrs old going on 16 and i only weigh 70 lbs!!! you guys think ur skinny??? you havnt seen me… i try so hard to eat so much and never gain a single lb. as of now… im stil trying to become a little more confident about myself and be more outspoken. maybe that way ill make friends and meet guys more easily… please comment on my post if you read it =)
I LOVE THE WEBSITE! im 18 and i only weigh 95lbs. people are always talking about my weight.